Resisting Change

Posted on May 15 2009

Change is something that makes everyone uncomfortable at some time or another. Resisting change occurs when we are in a position where we do not expect change, and we are most surprised when it is impending. We are resisting change when we like to feel secure, and we were raised in world’s of stability, continuity, and comfort (I hope!)

And as we move along in the world, we learn that it is not at all certain. It is far from static and permanent. In fact, it is said that change is the only certainty. We all have expectations, and many things don’t always turn out the way you expect.

Rather than resisting change, some of us embrace change. Those of us who embrace it, are usually much happier. We feel that change is interesting and will add color to our lives. Decisions are essentially advocating change, unless a decision is made where one of the options is not to change at all.

Some people prefer resisting change and will sabotage an effort when asked to perform Change is something that makes everyone uncomfortable at some time or another. It’s is usually when we are in a position where we do not expect change, we are most surprised when it is impending. We like to feel secure, and we were raised in world’s of stability, continuity, and comfort (I hope!)

And as we move along in the world, we learn that it is not at all certain. It is far from static and permanent. In fact, it is said that change is the only certainty. We all have expectations, and many things don’t always turn out the way you expect.

Some people embrace change and there are some of us who fight it. Those of us who embrace it, are usually much happier. We feel that change is interesting and will add color to our lives. Decisions are essentially advocating change, unless a decision is made where one of the options is not to change at all. Some people resist change and will sabotage an effort when asked to perform Group Decision Making

Usually when a group has been gathered to help make a decision, someone has already decided that something has to change. It is impending, if not looming, and those who resist can typically be left behind. If you are one of those who have problems accomodating change in your life, I would suggest that you make it a practice to change something periodically to become more comfortable. This is how you will stop resisting change.

Take a different route to work, choose something different from a menu. These are little, low-risk decisions you can make for practice.

Often people who are resistant to change need to be led through transition, or helped through other Decision Making Pitfalls. It is an internal experience than many must survice when something major changes in an organization. When a change is a natural disaster, leaders emerge and we are led from it to recovery.

When it occurs in the workplace, there is always a leader to follow, unless you, yourself have abdicated the change. In that case, if you need a leader, you can search out external help to coach you from the sidelines, or be your shadow in making your decision.

Sometimes, decisions impact several areas of your life. Moving to work in a different city is a prime example – your living and travel arrangements have to change, your job, your environment, and even your friends.  You may be avoiding these big decisions.  Are you procrastinating?

You need to find new sources of your most usual services, such as mechanics and hair salons. Each big life decision that impacts so many parts of your life should be very carefully thought out, as they are difficult to reverse, but sometimes the benefits behind these changes can bring you the most joy you will ever experience.

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